“The Times They are A-Changin”.
I’m sure Bob Dylan didn’t have weddings in mind when he wrote that song. But there’s no better sentiment that comes to mind as each wedding season comes and go. Here are some changes (the three biggest) I’m seeing from the couples I’ve worked with over the years.
1. The First Look. It’s that incredible moment when you see each other for the first time. For the groom, the doors at the back of the aisle open and there’s his bride. It’s his first time seeing her in her dress – hair and makeup done, looking beautiful and radiant. For the bride, she sees her man standing at the other end of the aisle waiting to take her hand. It’s truly an incredible moment.
In the past couple years I’ve had more and more couples opt for a First Look. It’s a moment before the ceremony where they can see each other and share that moment in private, or with just a few friends and family members. When done right, it’s very romantic and, sometimes, even more amazing than seeing each other for the first time at the ceremony. The benefit? It allows them to take their wedding photos before the day officially begins and frees up time later for welcoming guests and partying.
2. Bouquet and Garter. Here’s one that is really taking hold. More and more couples are opting out of the bouquet toss and garter throw. Why? One reason, and I can attest to this, is the bouquet toss can be dangerous! I’ve seen quite a few single women fall to floor making a play for the flying flowers. Other than that, there aren’t many reasons to cut it out. But the same can’t be said for the garter throw. Many couples are now seeing this as a diversion from a romantic and classy event. It might not be the actual act that is landing in hot water, but when alcohol and party people come together, and their boundaries fall, it can become a little “side show-y” and bawdy.
3. Cake cutting; To Be or Not to Be? This one continues to surprise me. Couples will tell me before the wedding that their cake cutting will not be a huge deal. They’d rather let their guests continue to party instead of stopping everyone to take pictures of the moment. The bride and groom are more than happy to get the memory in professional photos and video.
So what do you think? Are you sad to see some of these changes? Are you bucking the new trends to stay with the traditions you love or are you buying into them wholeheartedly? Let me know. I’d be curious to hear from everyone.